As I've written many times over the past year, the decision to dedicate time to truly knowing myself better has been life changing.  Before that I would have, as most people do, just assumed certain things to be true without giving it much consideration. It's easy to be distracted by what I wish I were like or what I (or others) think I should be like.  And thus I just assumed that I must like music (I really don't), that pizza is delicious (I have always been underwhelmed), and that "everything in moderation" is a good thing (not for an abstainer like me).  And learning that, for me at least, balance is not key has been an extremely liberating realization.  The idea of achieving balance is ubiquitous in the mainstream and especially amongst self help outlets or well-intended advice. And on the surface, it makes a lot of sense to strive for some semblance of equilibrium or moderation - when it comes to how we spend our time and energy or to what we eat and drink, we are constantly encouraged to find a "balance."  And this might work for some people, but for me,